Hugs Not Required
Respecting Everyone's Personal Space
 
 
PICTURE BOOKS
Hattie hates hugs
by Sarah Hovorka

Hattie learns to establish her boundaries with confidence and without hurting the feelings of her overly affectionate relatives.
Hug?
by Charlene Chua
Hug?
by Charlene Chua

How many hugs is too many? This girl's had enough! 
The story shows how important hugs can be to our happiness --- even the most unlikely of creatures sometimes need one! --- but that doesn't mean they're always welcome. (Ages 3 - 6)
Oh No, Bobo!
by Donna David
Oh No, Bobo!
by Donna David

Bobo is sure one of his jungle friends will be able to help. He plucks a feather here and a tuft of hair there but only causes upset! Bobo is left despondent and still without a pillow. But when Elsie the elephant enthusiastically strokes Bobo and wraps him up in her trunk in an effort to play, Bobo gets very upset indeed. Will Bobo and Elsie both learn an important lesson about asking permission? (Ages 4 - 6)
Don't hug Doug : (he doesn't like it)
by Carrie Finison
Don't Hug Doug : (He Doesn't Like It)
by Carrie Finison

Doug prefers not to be hugged, but there are a variety of other ways his loved ones can show him affection. (Ages 3 - 7)
Harrison P. Spader, personal space invader
by Christianne C Jones
Harrison P. Spader, Personal Space Invader
by Christianne C Jones

Harrison is a boy who loves life and likes to share with others, but as he grows older the people around him are finding that he stands too close and maybe hugs a little too much--until his father teaches him the Space Saver rhyme, a method for determining just the right amount of space to leave between himself and others. (Ages 3 - 7)
Ask First, Monkey! : A Playful Introduction to Consent and Boundaries
by Juliet Clare Bell
 
Monkey is the best tickler in the world, ever; even his mum says so. And there's nothing he loves more than tickling ALL his friends at playtime!
But what happens if some of his friends don't want to be tickled? (Ages 3 - 6)
Rissy No Kissies 
by Katey Howes
Rissy No Kissies
by Katey Howes

A lovebird who doesn't like kisses? Rissy's friends and family wonder if she's sick, confused, or rude. But kisses make Rissy uncomfortable. Can one little lovebird show everyone that there's no one right way to show you care? (Ages 4 - 9)
My Hugging Rules
by David Kirk
My Hugging Rules
by David Kirk

Please, no pinchy, prickly, swishy, swoopy or too tight hugs! An adorable but picky cat has strict rules about how her friends can hug her. But, when she needs a hug, she discovers that her very particular rules need to be tossed aside for - NEW RULES!
(Ages 2 - 8)
Will ladybug hug?
by Hilary Leung
Will Ladybug Hug?
by Hilary Leung

Ladybug loves to hug! Now Ladybug is getting ready to go on a trip and wants to say good-bye to her friends. . . but will her friends want to receive a hug? Find out in this surprising and memorable storybook all about friendship, high-fives, consent, and of course, hugs! (Ages 1 - 4)
How to hug 
by Maryann Macdonald
How to Hug
by Maryann Macdonald

The reader is invited to consider some things about when, who, and how to hug, but if you don’t want a hug, it’s okay to say so. (Ages 3 - 6)
Don't touch my hair!
by Sharee Miller
Don't Touch My Hair!
by Sharee Miller

A plucky youngster gets fed up and imparts a lesson about the importance of asking permission when everyone she meets, from strangers in the street and mermaids in the sea to monkeys in the jungle and aliens in space, want to touch her beautiful, fluffy, curly hair. (Ages 3 - 8).
	
Please Don't Give Me a Hug!
by Judi Moreillon
Please Don't Give Me a Hug!
by Judi Moreillon

There are children who enjoy a solid bear hug, and there are those who don't--and that's okay. Friendliness, love, and affection can be shown in many different ways! In this sweet book, young children share the different ways they feel comfortable being greeted by new or friendly acquaintances. (Ages 2 - 4)
Can I give you a squish? 
by Emily Neilson
Can I Give You a Squish?
by Emily Neilson

A lighthearted story about expressions of love and friendship features a little mer-boy whose overenthusiastic hugs frighten some of his fellow fish before he learns about consent and figures out other ways to express affection. (Ages 3 - 7)
No hugs! 
by Deirdre A Prischmann
No Hugs!
by Deirdre A Prischmann

Alice, a girl who loves giving hugs, struggles to understand why her friend Zara does not want one, until the tables are turned, giving Alice a new perspective about her friend’s feelings. (Ages 3 - 6)
Patrick Porcupine's Personal Space
by Greg Thomas
Patrick Porcupine's Personal Space
by Greg Thomas

It’s Patrick Porcupine’s very first day at school, and his teacher Mrs. Turtle has an important lesson for her class: what personal space is and how important it is to respect it. (Ages 2 - 8)
Hands off, Harry! 
by Rosemary Wells
Hands Off, Harry!
by Rosemary Wells

Harry has trouble keeping his hands off his classmates until Tina thinks of the perfect piece of gym equipment to teach him about personal space
(Ages 3 - 6)
More Than Fluff
by Madeline Valentine
More Than Fluff
by Madeline Valentine

A fuzzy little chick is rendered uncomfortable by friends who pet her, squeeze her and declare her cute when she endeavors to prove that she is more substance than fluff, in a relatable story that discusses the topics of autonomy and consent. (Ages 3 - 7)
 
PARENTS COLLECTION
We Can Say No
by Lydia Bowers

Teaching children it's okay to say no, this read-aloud picture book follow Zakiya and Sami as they learn that their bodies, including their hair, belong to them and that no one should touch them without permission. 
Consent (for kids!) : boundaries, respect, and being in charge of yourself
by Rachel Brian
Consent (for Kids!) : Boundaries, Respect, and Being in Charge of You
by Rachel Brian

A smart, playful guide to consent and bodily autonomy, packed with bright and energetic illustrations. Readers will learn about boundaries and how to set them; ways to respect themselves and others; what to do if someone makes them feel uncomfortable or unsafe; and much more.
(Ages 6 - 10)
Personal Space Camp
by Julia Cook
Personal Space Camp
by Julia Cook

Although Louis knows a lot about outer space, the young boy finds himself sent to Principal Goodkid's office to attend Personal Space Camp after his teacher loses her patience with his behavior.  Personal Space Camp addresses the complex issue of respect for another person's physical boundaries. (Ages 5 - 8)
 
An Exceptional Children's Guide to
Touch: Teaching Social and Physical Boundaries to Kids
by Hunter Manasco

A picture book designed for parents and professionals to use with children explains in simple terms how to tell the difference between acceptable and inappropriate touch, thereby helping the child with special needs stay safe.
Let's Talk About Body Boundaries, Consent & Respect : A book to teach children about body ownership, respectful relationships, feelings and emotions, choices and recognizing bullying behaviors
by Jayneen Sanders
Let's Talk About Body Boundaries, Consent & Respect : A Book to Teach Children About Body Ownership, Respectful Relationships, Feelings and Emotions, Choices and Recognizing Bullying Behaviors
by Jayneen Sanders

Explores concepts of body boundaries in a child-friendly and easily understood manner, employing familiar scenarios for children to engage with and discuss. Includes discussion questions for parents, caregivers, and educators. (Ages 4 - 10)
My Body! What I Say Goes
by Jayneen Sanders
My Body! What I Say Goes
by Jayneen Sanders

The crucial skills taught in this book will help children to protect their bodies from inappropriate touch. Children will be empowered to say in a strong and clear voice, "This is my body! What I say goes!" (Ages 3 - 10)
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Last updated 4/21.
 
 
 
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