Gender Identity and Expression
Books for Children and Their Parents
What Riley wore 
by Elana K Arnold
What Riley Wore
by Elana K Arnold

Gender-creative Riley knows just what to wear for every occasion during a busy week with family and friends. A gentle exploration of self-expression and source of encouragement for being true to oneself despite the expectations of others. (Ages 3 - 8)
 
I am Jazz! 
by Jessica Herthel
I Am Jazz!
by Jessica Herthel

Based on the young co-author's real-life experiences, the story of a transgender child traces her early awareness that she is a girl in spite of male anatomy and the acceptance she finds through a wise doctor who explains her natural transgender status. (Ages 3 and up)
 
Jacob's new dress 
by Sarah Hoffman
Jacob's New Dress
by Sarah Hoffman

A heartwarming tale that speaks to the unique challenges faced by boys who do not identify with traditional gender roles follows the experiences of young Jacob, who loves playing dress-up but who is told by his peers and parents that he cannot wear a dress to school. (Ages 4 - 7)
 
What Are Your Words? : A Book About Pronouns
by Katherine Locke
What Are Your Words? : A Book About Pronouns
by Katherine Locke

An accessible and heartwarming introduction to gender-diverse pronouns follows the experiences of a gender-fluid child who learns how their neighbors identify themselves during a community party where everyone is included. (Ages 4 - 8)
When Aidan became a brother 
by Kyle Lukoff
When Aidan Became a Brother
by Kyle Lukoff

Aidan, a transgender boy, experiences complicated emotions as he and his parents prepare for the arrival of a new baby. (Ages 3 - 7)
 
My princess boy : a mom's story about a young boy who loves to dress up 
by Cheryl Kilodavis
My Princess Boy : A Mom's Story About a Young Boy Who Loves to Dress Up
by Cheryl Kilodavis

Shows a family's acceptance and support of their four year old son, who likes to dress up as a princess. (Kindergarten - 2nd grade)
 
Born Ready : The True Story of a Boy Named Penelope
by Jodie Patterson
Born Ready : The True Story of a Boy Named Penelope
by Jodie Patterson

Just before his fifth birthday, Penelope lets his mother know he is a boy and, with her support and his ninja powers, faces the rest of his family and his classmates. The activist and chair of the Human Rights Campaign Foundation Board draws on the uplifting examples of her transgender son in a story that offers relatable messages about identity, self-acceptance and being true to oneself. (Ages 4 - 8)
Who are you? : the kid's guide to gender identity 
by Brook Pessin-Whedbee
Who Are You? : The Kid's Guide to Gender Identity
by Brook Pessin-Whedbee

Presents clear and direct language for understanding and talking about how we experience gender: our bodies, our expression and our identity. (Ages 3 - 7)
My Maddy 
by Gayle E Pitman
My Maddy
by Gayle E Pitman

A child celebrates her Maddy, who is neither mommy nor daddy but a little bit of both, like so many things in nature. Includes note to parents.
(Ages 4 - 9)
 
Jack (not Jackie) 
by Erica Silverman
Jack (Not Jackie)
by Erica Silverman

Susan loves her baby sister, Jackie, but as Jackie grows older and behaves more and more like a boy Susan must adjust to having a brother, Jack, instead. (Ages 4 - 8)
 
It's Okay to Be a Unicorn!
by Jason Tharp
It's Okay to Be a Unicorn!
by Jason Tharp

Cornelious J. Sparklesteed hides his true identity under a series of creative hats, but when he is chosen to perform at this year's Hoofapalooza, he must find the courage to reveal his true unicorniness. (Ages 3 - 9)
From the Stars in the Sky to the Fish in the Sea 
by Kai Cheng Thom
From the Stars in the Sky to the Fish in the Sea
by Kai Cheng Thom

A magical gender variant child brings transformation and change to the world around them thanks to their mother’s enduring love.
(Ages 3 - 7)
It feels good to be yourself : a book about gender identity 
by Theresa Thorn
It Feels Good to Be Yourself : A Book About Gender Identity
by Theresa Thorn

Providing sensitive vocabulary for initiating discussions, a warmhearted, straightforward exploration of gender identity offers children a fuller understanding of themselves and others, in a compassionate story written by the mother of a transgender child and illustrated by a non-binary transgender artist. (Ages 4 - 8)
 
Introducing Teddy : a gentle story about gender and friendship 
by Jessica Walton
Introducing Teddy : A Gentle Story About Gender and Friendship
by Jessica Walton

Errol's best friend and teddy, Thomas, is sad because he wishes he were a girl, not a boy teddy, but what only matters to both of them is that they are friends. (Ages 3 - 6)
Neither 
by Airlie Anderson
 Neither
by Airlie Anderson

Hatching from an unusual egg, a green, feathered, long-eared creature from a land that is made up entirely of blue bunnies and yellow birds embarks on a search to discover where he belongs in a new home of endless colors, shapes and diversity. (Ages 3 - 7)
 
Morris Micklewhite and the tangerine dress 
by Christine Baldacchino
Morris Micklewhite and The Tangerine Dress
by Christine Baldacchino

A young boy faces adversity from classmates when he wears an orange dress at school. (Ages 4 - 7)
Felix's new skirt 
by Kerstin Brichzin
Felix's New Skirt
by Kerstin Brichzin

Felix likes to wear skirts, but when his classmates' merciless teasing makes him want to give up school for good, his parents come up with a way to validate Felix's expression, while also teaching the other children a lesson in acceptance. (Ages 4 - 7)
 
Glad, glad Bear! 
by Kimberly Gee
 Glad, Glad Bear!
by Kimberly Gee

A follow-up to Mad, Mad Bear! finds the endearingly relatable Bear happily preparing for his first dance class before overcoming feelings of insecurity and shyness through his exuberant dancing.
(Ages 3 - 7)
 
Red : a crayon's story 
by Michael Hall
Red : A Crayon's Story
by Michael Hall

Red's factory-applied label clearly says that he is red, but despite the best efforts of his teacher, fellow crayons and art supplies, and family members, he cannot seem to do what's expected of him until a new friend offers a fresh perspective. (Ages 4 - 8)
 
Jacob's room to choose 
by Sarah Hoffman
Jacob's Room to Choose
by Sarah Hoffman

After Jacob and Sophie are prevented from using their school's bathrooms, their teacher helps her students write new rules about who can use which bathroom. (Ages 4 - 8)
 
Bunnybear 
by Andrea J. Loney
Bunnybear
by Andrea J. Loney

Although Bunnybear was born a bear, he feels more like a bunny. He loves to bounce through the forest, wiggle his nose, and munch on strawberries. The other bears don't understand him, and neither do the bunnies. Will Bunnybear ever find a friend who likes him just the way he is?
(Ages 4 - 8)
 
Julián is a mermaid 
by Jessica Love
Julián is a Mermaid
by Jessica Love

Glimpsing a trio of women dressed up in fabulous mermaid costumes while riding the subway home with his abuela, little Julián resolves to make a fancy mermaid costume and headdress for himself and wonders what his abuela will think of the mess he makes, and more importantly, how his costume will reflect how he sees himself. (Ages 4 - 8)
 
Sparkle Boy
by Lesléa Newman
Sparkle Boy
by Lesléa Newman

Three-year-old Casey wants what his older sister, Jessie, has--a shimmery skirt, glittery painted nails, and a sparkly bracelet--but Jessie does not approve. After two boys tease Casey about his appearance, Jessie evolves to a place of acceptance and celebration of her gender creative younger brother. (Ages 4 - 8)
Want to play trucks? 
by Ann Stott
Want to Play Trucks?
by Ann Stott

Jack and Alex find common ground in the sandbox at the playground, even though Jack likes trucks and Alex prefers dolls wearing "pink, sparkly" tutus. With some flexible thinking ("Let's play dolls...that drive trucks"), the two boys play together while remaining true to themselves. (Ages 2 - 5)
The Pants Project 
by Cat Clarke
The Pants Project
by Cat Clarke
 
Eleven-year-old Liv fights to change the middle school dress code requiring girls to wear a skirt and, along the way, finds the courage to tell his moms he is meant to be a boy. (Grades 3 - 6)
 
George 
by Alex Gino
George
by Alex Gino

Knowing herself to be a girl despite her outwardly male appearance, George is denied a female role in the class play before teaming up with a friend to reveal her true self. (Grades 4 - 7)
My life as a diamond 
by Jenny Manzer
My Life As a Diamond
by Jenny Manzer

When Caz Cadman moves with his family to the Seattle area, he quickly joins the local summer baseball team and worries that his new teammates will find out that he used to play baseball in Toronto as a girl named Cassandra. (Grades 4 - 8)
 
The moon within 
by Aida Salazar
The Moon Within
by Aida Salazar
 
A modern tale of early adolescence finds Celi navigating questions about her changing body, first attraction and a best friend's genderfluid explorations while resisting her mother's embarrassing plans for an ancestral Mexica moon ceremony to celebrate her first period.
(Grades 4 - 8)
 
You be you! : the kid's guide to gender, sexuality, and family 
by Jonathan Branfman
You Be You! : The Kid's Guide to Gender, Sexuality, and Family
by Jonathan Branfman

Throughout the book, kids learn that there are many kinds of people in the world and that diversity is something to be celebrated. It covers gender, romantic orientation, discrimination, intersectionality, privilege, and how to stand up for what's right. (Grades 3 - 6) 
 
 
Inside the LBGTQ+ movement 
by Jennifer Lombardo
Inside the LBGTQ+ Movement
by Jennifer Lombardo

.Introduces the LBGTQ+ movement's ideals, the methods used to achieve them, and the people who led, and continue to lead, the campaign for improved social equality for all members of the LBGTQ+ community. (Grades 4 - 6)
 
 
Identity & gender 
by Charlie Ogden
Identity & Gender
by Charlie Ogden

This empowering book talks about how family, culture, and values shape our identities and that it is important to be happy with who you are. Identities are the ways that people think about and see themselves. Gender often makes up a large part of our identity. Whether male or female, a person's gender is more about which sex they strongly identify themselves as being. 
(Grades 4 - 7)
 
Rainbow Revolutionaries : Fifty Lgbtq+ People Who Made History 
by Sarah Prager
Rainbow Revolutionaries : Fifty Lgbtq+ People Who Made History
by Sarah Prager

Infused with pop-culture references and complemented by dynamic artwork, a celebration of the lives of 50 LGBTQ+ historical contributors includes profiles of individuals ranging from Alexander the Great and Alan Turing to Harvey Milk and Ellen DeGeneres. (Grades 3 - 7)
Sam Is My Sister
by Ashley Rhodes-Courter
Sam Is My Sister
by Ashley Rhodes-Courter

Evan, Sam, and Finn fish, climb trees, and play astronauts together, but when Sam wants to have long hair and wear dresses, Evan is confused until he learns what it means to be transgender.
(Ages 4 - 8)
LGBTQ+ Rights
by Virginia Loh-Hagan
LGBTQ+ Rights
by Virginia Loh-Hagan

Learn all about LGBTQ+ activism, from gender-neutral bathrooms to legalizing same-sex marriage. Get a global look at the history of the movement, meet the activists involved, and celebrate some of the legal victories! Each chapters end with a call to action, so kids can feel inspired to get involved in their own communities. This high-interest book is written at a lower reading level for struggling readers. (Ages 10 and up)
The Arts
by Emilie Dufresne
The Arts
by Emilie Dufresne

Sometimes being who you are can be a hard thing to do. Learn about people from across the LGBTQIA+ community who celebrate who they are and never stop fighting for what they believe in. No matter who you are, inside or out, this book is here to teach you that you can be proud of who you are. (Ages 7 - 10)
Stem
by Emilie Dufresne
Stem
by Emilie Dufresne

Sometimes being who you are can be a hard thing to do. Learn about people from across the LGBTQIA+ community who celebrate who they are and never stop fighting for what they believe in. No matter who you are, inside or out, this book is here to teach you that you can be proud of who you are. Let's break down some barriers! It's time to have pride in STEM! (Ages 7 - 10)
Change
by Emilie Dufresne
Change
by Emilie Dufresne

Sometimes being who you are can be a hard thing to do. Learn about people from across the LGBTQIA+ community who celebrate who they are and never stop fighting for what they believe in. No matter who you are, inside or out, this book is here to teach you that you can be proud of who you are. Change focuses on agents of social justice and LGBTQIA+ advocacy, from Barbara Jordan and Marsha P. Johnson to Arsham Parsi and Jonathan Van Ness (Ages 7 - 10)
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Last updated 4/21.
 
 
 
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